Families: source of despotism or bulwark of liberty?
In all societies, strong families are the foundation of civil liberties and personal happiness.
In this highly readable book, Allan Carlson, founder of the US-based Howard Center for Family, Religion and Society, and Paul Mero, president of the Sutherland Institute, seek to explain what has caused the disruption of the family as an institution over the past half century. They highlight the substantial body of empirical evidence in support of the natural family, show that societies that reject the concept of the family as their basic social unit are not viable and outline various reforms that could help restore a sound family culture.
The key concept of this book is drawn from Article 16 of the United Nations Universal Declaration of Human Rights, which states that “the family is the natural and fundamental group unit of society and is entitled to protection by society and the state”. The authors define the “natural family” as “the fundamental social unit, inscribed in human nature, and centered around the voluntary action of a man and a woman in a lifelong covenant of marriage for the purposes of satisfying the longings of the human heart to give and receive love, welcoming and ensuring the full physical and emotional development of children.” Such a definition, they emphasize, far from being a uniquely religious or Western concept, cuts across all cultures. There is no discord in what the Bible and science say about the family. The findings of modern anthropology sustain the notion of marriage as “an unchanging institution, universal in its basic elements and common to all humanity”. Cultural variations relating to marriage are but details around “a constant human model”.
The findings of modern anthropology sustain the notion of marriage as “an unchanging institution, universal in its basic elements and common to all humanity”. Cultural variations relating to marriage are but details around “a constant human model”.
This view of the family is also consistent with an important, albeit dissenting, school of sociology, inaugurated by the 19th century French academic Frederic Le Play and developed by 20th century American sociologists such as Carle Zimmerman, Pitirim Sorokin and Robert Nisbet. The latter in particular understood the family as “the real molecule of society, the key link of the social chain of being”. In his own words, it is “inconceivable… that either intellectual growth or social order or the roots of liberty can possibly be maintained among a people unless the kinship tie is strong and has both functional significance and symbolic authority”. Thus, by keeping in check the growth of the State, the natural family acts as a “bulwark of liberty”.
In explaining the current crisis in family life, Carlson and Mero try to go beyond the usual explanations based on serial divorce, gay marriage or the refusal to procreate, and emphasize instead what they call “the loss of a generally shared vision… of what the family is”. The loss of vision resulted largely from the emergence of a liberal worldview where the family is seen as “an agent of repression, fear, and adherence to a stifling past”. At its root, this worldview rests on the self conceived as an atomized individual. From the 17th century onwards, philosophers such as Thomas Hobbes, John Locke, John Stuart Mill and, more recently, Arthur Calhoun and John Rawls, have disparaged the family, portraying it essentially as “a struggle between one individual and another for advantage”. Philosophers advocating a collectivist view of man, such as Jean-Jacques Rousseau, Frederick Engels and Karl Marx, also viewed the family as oppressive and sought to have its responsibilities transferred to the State. The success of this increasingly common view is due in part to the rigorous demands that family life imposes. Unless one is brought up in a familial culture, the temptation to flee the burdens of home and family can become almost irresistible.
Industrialization has also played a role in the weakening of the family. The family household was the center of productive labor prior to the industrial revolution, but it has now ceased to be so, its economic activity having been gradually taken over by centralized factories, warehouses and offices. This process “destroyed the ancient unity of home and work, the natural ecology of the family, which had prevailed for hundreds of generations”.
Yet, throughout the first half of the 20th century, attempts were made to defend the natural family from the negative pressures of modernization. Both in Europe and North America, governments developed family policies aimed at protecting marriage and supporting families with children. In European countries and in Canada, the favored approach was “family allowances”. The US for its part adopted a policy of “child welfare” inspired by so-called “maternalist” reformers such as Josephine Baker and Florence Kelly. In post-war years, these initiatives led to a significant rise in marriage and fertility rates, as well as to a drop in divorce rates. However, the “family model” that informed government policies throughout this period – the breadwinner-homemaker-child-rich family sustained by a “family wage” – was soon challenged by a new model advocated by the likes of Swedish feminist theorist Alva Myrdal, who described “traditional family” as an “abnormal situation for a child” and sought “a new parenthood” more fitting to “the evolution toward a rationalization of human life” (her words). Such views quickly led to a broad intellectual assault against marriage and the family that culminated in “no-fault” divorce laws, decriminalization of abortion, day care subsidies, replacement of pro-family tax regimes by individualized taxation and, more recently, legalization of same-sex marriage.
The consequences of this evolution are now well documented. In all Western countries, marriage rates are in decline, cohabitation rates keep rising and fertility rates do not allow for the renewal of existing generations. As a result, the average age is climbing rapidly and the ratio of working-age population to total population is decreasing to the point where the future of social security systems appears to be in jeopardy. The book provides a wealth of data indicating that these trends have serious consequences for the happiness and welfare of men, women and children. For example, the notion that women are safest physically when married and living with their husbands is firmly supported by empirical research. There is similar evidence concerning the health and intellectual and emotional development of children. In short, the idea that the natural family provides the optimal environment for the healthy development of both children and adults is widely confirmed by social science research. Put another way, nothing contradicts the policy prescriptions of feminists, gay activists and advocates of easy divorce more than the findings of social scientists. In this regard, it should be noted that the review of the social science literature on the family offered here is alone enough to make the purchase of the book worthwhile.
To help understand why the natural family is the fundamental unit of society and produces the most desirable outcomes, Carlson and Mero devote an entire chapter to a study of alternative social models. More specifically, they sketch what a society would be like if, instead of the natural family, its fundamental unit were the individual, the church, the corporation or the state. Perhaps the most interesting part of that chapter is the one devoted to a society based on individual interest, ie, the libertarian model. What it describes is, of course, something much akin to the world we currently live in, a world where people are “socially isolated”, “culturally narcissistic” and “politically utilitarian”.
As might be expected, the last chapter of the book sets out various policies designed to strengthen the natural family. The authors recommend measures aimed at encouraging home-based work and businesses, home schooling and home-based care for the elderly. They also recommend a reintroduction of “fault” in divorce laws and generous exemptions or credits for children and “stay-home mums” in income tax laws.
This book represents a major contribution to the debate on the family in that it provides a sound analytical framework for the development of family policies. Perhaps its strongest point is that, unlike many studies that emphasize a purely sociological or empirical approach, it attempts to come to grips with some of the more metaphysical issues underlying relations between the individual, the family and the State. Given the culture wars currently raging in all Western countries, we can perhaps do, relatively speaking, with a little less sociology and a little more philosophy. More specifically, we must try to understand more clearly why the natural family model is consonant with human nature and why the idea of human nature from which it derives is so strenuously challenged by the two most powerful contemporary cultural forces - the media and academia. The latter consistently assume that natural differences between men and women are mere “cultural constructs”. More generally, they deny the very legitimacy of the concept of human nature and affirm that “everything is culture”. This is a key factor that cannot be ignored: if people are constantly urged to deny that men and women are different by nature, any attempt to present feminine and masculine family roles as naturally complementary is bound to be perceived as a patriarchal plot to subjugate women.
As Carlson and Mero would readily admit, Western societies will not be returned to the concept of the natural family by a mere set of policy reforms, as good as these might be. Only something akin to a paradigm shift – a transformation of souls – can render such a model acceptable. Given that, largely as a result of the sexual revolution, Christianity no longer carries much moral authority, one wonders how such a transformation might be achieved. This is perhaps the one question that the authors might have engaged more forcefully.
Richard Bastien is a writer and regular contributor to Égards, a French-language Canadian quarterly journal.


“How can there be a debate without contrarian ideas?”
When I used “contrarian” I meant polarized positions with what appears to be an unwillingness to even explore the middle ground. What typically ensues is has all the appearance of an attack. That is not what I would consider “debate” or “civil discourse”. I’ve always hoped that it is possible to debate issues without having to verbally abuse the other side.
“I'm not Christian. If I was we wouldn't be debating.”
In my opinion it’s a sad commentary when we don’t look to engage others who hold dearly to perspectives that are radically different from our own. You are mistaken if you think that there are not divisions/debates within the Christian community even on this very topic (family values, moral decline, marriage and divorce).
“By the way, what was uncivil about my post?”
Perhaps I’ve sandbagged a bit from your comments on other topics at Mercatornet. I’m referring to the broad brush that is applied to what appears to be anyone coming from a Christian perspective. Blanket statements where the actions of a few, which I might consider “substantiated or not”, are attributed to the whole.
“What's wrong with basing my opinions on my personal experience? How else should I form opinions?”
Quite rightly we, you and I, form our opinions based on our experiences. What I’m getting at is the willingness, or lack thereof, to hear what another’s experience is; and to be able to weigh that experience against one’s own. If we can’t do that my fear is that we then limit our existence to a kind of self imposed isolation.
“Should I base them on your personal experience?”
That is your call. I try to interact with as many people as possible. Over time I’ve come to value the personal experience of others. That list has always been a growing one for me; when someone else’s experience, opinion or advice proves true then I value their contributions all the more.
“We, in the west, are in the process of adjusting to new realities.”
I agree.
“Women have the ability now to walk away from bad marriages.”
I agree.
“Why else would the divorce rate be so high?”
Well, probably for that reason and many, many, many more.
“It's not because of gay marriage or the decline of moral values.”
Non sequitur.
“It's because so many men are pigs and women have options now.”
How about we emphasize for unmarried couples what a good marriage looks like? I teach my daughters what to look for and likewise I instruct my son. My wife and I have worked with engaged couples for 15 plus years because of the damage we have witnessed in divorce and broken families. A major focus for us is to encourage couples to probe areas of relationship where there may be unseen conflicts. We encourage them to explore those areas, and issues that might arise, before they marry. Hopefully we can short circuit some of those bad relationships and encourage the good ones. One of the significant changes we have seen over the years is the increased number of couples cohabiting before marriage (currently over 50% … we keep track). Church teaching is clear in discouraging this, but it typically flies like a lead balloon. Curiously, the numbers show that divorce is at least twice as likely for those who cohabit before marriage. When I connect the dots here the reality is that the decline in moral values does impact the divorce rate.
“Liberal Massachusetts, the home of gay marriage, has the lowest divorce rate among the states. The District of Columbia has the lowest divorce rate in America. This contradicts pretty much everything Richard Bastien has to say about the decline of marriage.”
The last sentence does not follow or is not supported. The information you’ve provided about divorce in Massachusetts and D of C are such a small aspect of the issues around the decline in marriage. I went back and re read Richard Bastein’s article 3 times and find that he is commenting or giving a review, if you like, of a book he read titled The Natural Family. I don’t find much in the way of direct claims regarding the decline of marriage. The primary topic is focused around what is happening to families or the decline of family “values”.
I could go through this same exercise with most of the questions you put into the next paragraph. They leave me wondering where to start. Then, I went over the top with the “It’s difficult to debate ...”
“I’m curious about the Christian fascination with the ‘natural’ family. It implies that we are no better than animals. Why point to nature in one instance while recoiling from it in another? In another article on this site, the author, not this author, implied that genetic connection trumps all others. Wouldn't that include spouses and adopted children? In America, Christians condemn Darwinism while supporting economic policies that incorporate the worst elements of ‘survival of the fittest’. It’s difficult to debate with Christians because I can’t figure out what they actually believe.”
and Asian Mennonite's lower divorce rate fits with the Asian culture in itself having a lower divorce rate -
http://www.divorcereform.org/mel/rasian.html
Children, especially girls, are more at risk from the breakup of the traditional family -
http://papers.ssrn.com/sol3/papers.cfm?abstract_id=239434
A recent article on children at risk after divorce - http://www.madison.com/wsj/topstories/index.php?ntid=257656
Especially after reading what happens to children because of divorce, it is encouraging to read of support for traditional families in The Natural Family. Thank you, Mr. Bastien and Mercator Net, for the review.
How can there be a debate without contrarian ideas? I'm not Christian. If I was we wouldn't be debating. By the way, what was uncivil about my post? What's wrong with basing my opinions on my personal experience? How else should I form opinions? Should I base them on your personal experience?
What I say is what I think.
We, in the west, are in the process of adjusting to new realities. Women have the ability now to walk away from bad marriages. Why else would the divorce rate be so high? It's not because of gay marriage or the decline of moral values. It's because so many men are pigs and women have options now. Women aren't perfect either but a lot of my fellow men are a shabby bunch. Sometimes, when men are alone together, a contempt for women bubbles to the surface that is quite startling. In the old days women had no reasonable choice but to put up with it. Not so now. If you want a stable marriage in the 21st century you have to work at it.
Massachusetts also has the next tolowest marriage rate among the states; while the District of Columbia has the lowest marriage rate in America ..... So, what!!! ???
David Page wrote: "It’s difficult to debate with Christians because I can’t figure out what they actually believe."
David as long as you see things in such a contrarian mode how can there be any debate at all? One wonders if it is possible for you to go beyond the limits of your own experience to attempt to carry on a civil dialogue?
After all, if it looks like a sheep, acts like a sheep, smells like a sheep... it's a wolf dressed up like a sheep^-^
An article that appears to be kind on the surface, but has a nasty tendency to bite out at of people. If only this were an isolated case.
Particularly, I like this little bit: that our problems are due in part (or whole) to "the loss of a generally shared vision… of what the family is"
Mm, perhaps^^ I suppose it's the homosexuals' fault, then, for not accepting a definition of family that excludes them from raising a child to love and care for, with a spouse to love and care for. Yep, all our fault.
On a personal note... whenever I see/hear the words 'natural family', I can feel myself get a little angry inside. Because there's hardly ever an instance in which the person spouting that phrase would accept me as a part of a family system.
But I keep that anger down, and tell myself that it's irrational. After all, I am natural, in every way. No matter what opinion anyone else might have on it.
That said, with all this assumption of how super-great the heterosexual family is in comparison to the homosexual family, I'm surprised they didn't cite that non-biased research where the kids raised by heterosexual parents are smarter and better adjusted than those raised by homosexual parents^^
Oh, wait... silly me, I'm making up research again^^;;
Regardless, have a nice day, everyone^-^
Not quite the simple picture you paint. What are the rates for cohabitation and marriage in Massachussetts? I would suspect a low divorce rate would be in place if the only ones left to get hitched are those who still believe it will last forever. The rest muddle along in other arrangements.
Christians believe in God, who stamped the natural law in human hearts at the moment of creation. He than gave it to humanity "in writing" via Moses (remember those stone tablets he came down from the mountain with?).
The reason that we all have such difficulty living by them is the FALL, an act of mistrust, betrayal of God's love and disobedience to Him by breaking his directive on the part of the First Parents. The disharmony and death entered ALL creation. We are having a hard time to live up to the ideal ever since. Christian believe that we should try nevetheless to live this ideal, we get help through sacraments (via God's Supernatural Grace thus obtained), and, I believe (which the research supports) represent the most happy part of humanity on this Earth.
Christians believe that the main instrument of knowing God is reason and there is a large body of very sound philosophy works to prove it. If you care to look up a few documents by the most enlightened and rigourously logical people on this planet past and present, you migt be able to find out for yourself.
I’m curious about the Christian fascination with the ‘natural’ family. It implies that we are no better than animals. Why point to nature in one instance while recoiling from it in another? In another article on this site, the author, not this author, implied that genetic connection trumps all others. Wouldn't that include spouses and adopted children? In America, Christians condemn Darwinism while supporting economic policies that incorporate the worst elements of ‘survival of the fittest’. It’s difficult to debate with Christians because I can’t figure out what they actually believe.
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