The straight line from marriage equality to divorce equality

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In 2008, Lauren Beth Czekala-Chatham and Dana Ann Melancon traveled from Mississippi to San Francisco for their dream wedding.

A few short years later the dream dissolved and now Czekala-Chatham wants Mississippi to grant her a divorce. Small problem. Her home state doesn’t recognize female marriage. No marriage, no divorce.

Have gay rights activists overplayed their hand? Will Czekala-Chatham’s wedding buyer’s remorse be followed by American voter remorse as more citizens learn of the disruption caused by same sex marriage laws passed in some states, but not recognized in others?

Politico reports:

“Czekala-Chatham, a 51-year-old credit analyst and mother of two teenage sons from an earlier straight marriage, filed for divorce in chancery court in September. She wants to force Mississippi to recognize the same-sex marriage for the purpose of granting the divorce.”

First of all, if she had a previous “straight marriage,” doesn’t that mean Czekala-Chatham used… click here to read whole article and make comments



Cheney sisters split over same-sex marriage

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Liz Cheney (left) and Mary Cheney (right) at the 2005 Presidential Inauguration

When Senate hopeful Liz Cheney stated on Fox News that she supports traditional marriage, her sister Mary and her partner, Heather Poe, quickly expressed their outrage on social media. Much to the disappointment of their father, former Vice-President Dick Cheney, Liz and Mary’s private disagreement about the definition of marriage has now become very public.

We might never run for public office, but in the future, many of us will face Liz Cheney’s dilemma: How do we support our same-sex attracted friends and relatives without being compelled to endorse same sex marriage?

On Fox News Liz Cheney stated: "I don't believe we ought to discriminate against people because of their sexual orientation. If people are in a same-sex relationship and they want their partner to be able to have health benefits… click here to read whole article and make comments



“Marriage Isn’t For You” goes viral

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When he had misgivings before marrying, Seth Adam Smith sought his dad’s advice. His father told him, “Marriage isn’t for you.” What kind of a dad gives his son advice like that?

A wise one.

“Having been married only a year and a half, I’ve recently come to the conclusion that marriage isn’t for me. Now before you start making assumptions, keep reading.

“I met my wife in high school when we were 15 years old. We were friends for ten years until…until we decided no longer wanted to be just friends. :) I strongly recommend that best friends fall in love. Good times will be had by all.

“Nevertheless, falling in love with my best friend did not prevent me from having certain fears and anxieties about getting married. The nearer Kim and I approached the decision to marry,… click here to read whole article and make comments



Woman marries Catholic bridge

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I'm only half-kidding. Australian woman Jodi Rose did in fact marry Le Pont du Diable bridge (also known as the Devil's Bridge) on June 17. But it cannot be confirmed that the bridge, raised by Benedictines, remained Catholic throughout its lifespan. This peculiar union was not blessed by a Catholic priest. It was blessed instead by the mayor of the neighbouring town. For those who are wondering, here are five reasons why the Catholic Church would never have allowed marriage between this woman and this bridge.

1. The bridge never consented.

Ms. Rose took advantage of the bridge's inanimate nature and married it even though the bridge could not possibly express its consent to the marriage.

2. The bride never agreed to be faithful.

"He understands that I love other bridges -- and men -- ours is a love that embraces the vagaries of life, as materialised in… click here to read whole article and make comments



Family tree-lopping

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This weekend my daughter was catching up on her college homework.  Chapter Ten in her psychology textbook is titled “Sex and Gender.”  It covers topics such as gender differences, similarities, and stereotypes.  The chapter wends its way from transgender issues to sexual harassment to the glass ceiling in the workplace, the boundary beyond which women are not welcome.  The book defines sexism as “differential treatment of an individual on the basis of his or her sex.”

Nowadays more than half of all women in the United States work outside the home.  Although they are garnering high-profile positions in private industry, government and politics, there is one domain in which they are increasingly discriminated against and excluded:  families. 

Ironically, same sex marriage laws do this in the name of equality.  We open our hearts and minds and definition of marriage to include two men, and in doing so we close the door to a wife in… click here to read whole article and make comments



It’s time to move on. Australians do not want same-sex marriage

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Today in Canberra nine people – eight Labor and one from the Greens – will set themselves up to decide marriage policy affecting the entire nation.

Capitalising on the normal disruption of a change of federal government, the ACT government will introduce a bill for same-sex marriage into the territory’s 17-member assembly. With no residency requirement, the Labor-Greens government is mischievously creating a problem for interstate people who will not be married when they cross back over the border.

The Liberals, sensibly, are not buying into it and will oppose the bill on constitutional grounds.

The commonwealth parliament has the power to override territory legislation and, because marriage is a federal responsibility, it should do this. It is not in Australia’s interest to have a hodgepodge of marriage laws. It is concerning that same-sex marriage advocates say they would rather see an ACT law challenged in the High… click here to read whole article and make comments



What is the core of marriage?

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If you can bear the clinking of plates, this address by Sherif Girgis is well-worth listening to. He is a Princeton graduate, Rhodes Scholar and graduate student at Princeton and Yale in law and philosophy. As a colleague of Princeton Professor Robert P. George he wrote a widely-read paper defending traditional marriage and attacking the notion of same-sex marriage. His words are cool, charitable and lucid. 

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Without kids, does marriage deserve social support?

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Thank you, Brian Greig, for summing up the ultimate outcome of the same-sex marriage campaign in four crisp sentences: the abolition of marriage altogether.  

Mr Greig is a former Senator from Western Australia who was the first open homosexual in Federal Parliament. In 1999 he told the Senate that no gays and lesbians he knew wanted same-sex marriage. (See yesterday's Conjugality.) Now, in a letter to The Australian, he explains why he has changed his mind.

The purpose of the campaign, he says, is to attain “respect and recognition”.

“I see now that exclusion from such a fundamental social and legal institution as marriage runs to the heart of the prejudice and stigma gay and lesbian people still face.

“Marriage matters because it's about respect and recognition. Marriage acknowledges and embraces same-sex couples within families and communities in a way that… click here to read whole article and make comments



Don’t be so sure about the issue du jour, says The Australian

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The Australian newspaper today declared its pragmatic opposition to same-sex marriage. With Opposition Leader Tony Abbott (who wrote its editorials once upon a time), it regards the current campaign as a fad. “Marriage is not a right,” the paper contends. “It is among other things a contractual set of obligations attached to the raising of a family”.

Furthermore, it is a policy demanded by a very small minority which is fiercely opposed by other minorities. “We must be cautious too of elevating the sensitivities of one minority group above those of others. Same-sex marriage is not easily embraced by Islamic and other non-Western cultures where loyalty to family and tradition trump Western notions of liberties and rights.”

This is not exactly a repudiation of same-sex marriage; in fact, it is merely a “I’m busy; ring back on Monday” sort of argument. But at least it puts… click here to read whole article and make comments



Same-sex marriage becomes law in New Zealand today

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Today is the first day of legal same-sex marriage in New Zealand. Bob McCoskrie, the director of Family First New Zealand, who campaigned long and hard against it, sent along this internet meme to mark the occasion. 


"Good morning. We want to apply for a marriage licence."


"Tim and Jim Jones."

"Jones? Are you related? I see a resemblance."

"Yes, we're brothers."

"Brothers? You can't get married."

"Why not? Aren't you giving marriage licences to same gender couples?"

"Yes, thousands. But we haven't had any siblings. That's incest! Why do you want to get married?"

"For the financial benefits, of course. And we do love each other. Besides, we don't have any other prospects."

"But we're issuing marriage licences to gay and lesbian couples who've been denied equal protection under the law. If you are not gay, you can get married to a woman."

"Wait a minute. A… click here to read whole article and make comments


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