The best of 2013 on same-sex marriage

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One of the most divisive social issue of our times is same-sex marriage. Conjugality has made a great contribution to the debate. Here are the year's top posts. 

 A toxic combination: paedophiles, baby farms, and same-sex marriage


“You disagree with me” is not evidence of homophobia

The Wong way forward for Australia

The debate that wasn’t: New Zealand’s rushed marriage revolution

It’s official. If Australia gets same-sex marriage, polygamy is next

French homosexuals join rally against gay marriage

What is the core of marriage?

Polygamy comes out of the closet

Family tree-lopping

Woman marries Catholic bridge

Why do we need marriage to be happy?

Who invented marriage? Not the Church. Not the State

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Why do parents fork out $230,348 to learn their child’s gender is “ze”?

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Tuition, room, board and other fees to attend Mills College in Oakland, CA is $57,587 per year, not counting health insurance fees of $3,600 per annum, (assuming you graduate before you reach the age of 26 and that your parents, who are helping you pay for school, are also footing the bill for your insurance).  Multiply that by four years of college (assuming you don’t need an extra year to complete the requirements of your major in Women’s, Gender and Sexuality Studies and your minor in Queer Studies), and your educational price tag can cost upwards of $230,348.

What do you get for nearly a quarter million dollars?  Along with a degree from a well-respected liberal arts college, the “Vassar of the West”, you might discover that your gender isn’t “he” or “she” but “other,” or “ze.”

Your professor doesn’t teach you your gender; these pronouns are strictly self-selected.  Take your pick from the smorgasbord.… click here to read whole article and make comments



Polygamy comes out of the closet

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Kody Brown, center, poses with his wives, from left, Janelle, Christine, Meri, and Robyn

Is Utah’s ban on polygamy unconstitutional? Last week a Federal Court judge ruled that it is, after Kody Brown and his four wives, the stars of the reality TV series Sister Wives, challenged it.

Judge Clark Waddoups, of United States District Court in Utah, struck down provisions of Utah’s bigamy law, which make “religious co-habitation” illegal. Kody Brown, who belongs to the Apostolic United Brethren Church,  an offshoot of the Mormon church, and has four wives and 17 children, welcomed the decision:

“Like thousands of other plural families, we have waited many years for this day. While we know that many people do not approve of plural families, it is our family and based on our beliefs. Just as we respect the… click here to read whole article and make comments



It’s official. If Australia gets same-sex marriage, polygamy is next.

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There were tears of indignation outside of Australia’s High Court yesterday, but it was the result that everyone expected: a law passed on December 3 authorising same-sex marriage in the Australian Capital Territory was unconstitutional. The marriages of the 30 or so gay and lesbian couples who had exchanged vows under the law have now been annulled.

“This is devastating for those couples who married this week and for their families,” said the spokesman for Australian Marriage Equality, Rodney Croome. “However, this is just a temporary defeat. What is far more important is that the ACT’s law facilitated the first same-sex marriage on Australian soil and showed the nation the love and commitment of same-sex couples. The marriages in the ACT prove that this reform is not about politics, but about love, commitment, and fairness.”

It had always been clear that under the Australian Constitution, the regulation of marriage is exclusively… click here to read whole article and make comments



Small govt libertarians want same-sex marriage. But only Big Govt can enforce it.

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Indiana’s Libertarian Party chair, Dan Drexler, announced in early November his opposition to a proposed constitutional amendment that would prevent Indiana from issuing marriage licenses to gay couples. But the libertarian reason he gave for his opposition does not support that opposition.

Drexler stated, “Government does not have the authority to define, license or restrict personal relationships. . . .Consenting adults should be free to choose their own sexual practices and personal relationships.” He added that he supports efforts “to remove government from intervening in personal relationships altogether.”

Clearly, the logical libertarian conclusion would be to keep government out of the relationship-licensing business as much as possible, not to support the extension of governmental “seals of approval” from heterosexual friendships to homosexual ones as well.

Society may have to license and reward different-sex relationships in order to stabilize them for the sake of any children that… click here to read whole article and make comments



The straight line from marriage equality to divorce equality

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In 2008, Lauren Beth Czekala-Chatham and Dana Ann Melancon traveled from Mississippi to San Francisco for their dream wedding.

A few short years later the dream dissolved and now Czekala-Chatham wants Mississippi to grant her a divorce. Small problem. Her home state doesn’t recognize female marriage. No marriage, no divorce.

Have gay rights activists overplayed their hand? Will Czekala-Chatham’s wedding buyer’s remorse be followed by American voter remorse as more citizens learn of the disruption caused by same sex marriage laws passed in some states, but not recognized in others?

Politico reports:

“Czekala-Chatham, a 51-year-old credit analyst and mother of two teenage sons from an earlier straight marriage, filed for divorce in chancery court in September. She wants to force Mississippi to recognize the same-sex marriage for the purpose of granting the divorce.”

First of all, if she had a previous “straight marriage,” doesn’t that mean Czekala-Chatham used… click here to read whole article and make comments



Cheney sisters split over same-sex marriage

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Liz Cheney (left) and Mary Cheney (right) at the 2005 Presidential Inauguration

When Senate hopeful Liz Cheney stated on Fox News that she supports traditional marriage, her sister Mary and her partner, Heather Poe, quickly expressed their outrage on social media. Much to the disappointment of their father, former Vice-President Dick Cheney, Liz and Mary’s private disagreement about the definition of marriage has now become very public.

We might never run for public office, but in the future, many of us will face Liz Cheney’s dilemma: How do we support our same-sex attracted friends and relatives without being compelled to endorse same sex marriage?

On Fox News Liz Cheney stated: "I don't believe we ought to discriminate against people because of their sexual orientation. If people are in a same-sex relationship and they want their partner to be able to have health benefits… click here to read whole article and make comments



“Marriage Isn’t For You” goes viral

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When he had misgivings before marrying, Seth Adam Smith sought his dad’s advice. His father told him, “Marriage isn’t for you.” What kind of a dad gives his son advice like that?

A wise one.

“Having been married only a year and a half, I’ve recently come to the conclusion that marriage isn’t for me. Now before you start making assumptions, keep reading.

“I met my wife in high school when we were 15 years old. We were friends for ten years until…until we decided no longer wanted to be just friends. :) I strongly recommend that best friends fall in love. Good times will be had by all.

“Nevertheless, falling in love with my best friend did not prevent me from having certain fears and anxieties about getting married. The nearer Kim and I approached the decision to marry,… click here to read whole article and make comments



Woman marries Catholic bridge

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I'm only half-kidding. Australian woman Jodi Rose did in fact marry Le Pont du Diable bridge (also known as the Devil's Bridge) on June 17. But it cannot be confirmed that the bridge, raised by Benedictines, remained Catholic throughout its lifespan. This peculiar union was not blessed by a Catholic priest. It was blessed instead by the mayor of the neighbouring town. For those who are wondering, here are five reasons why the Catholic Church would never have allowed marriage between this woman and this bridge.

1. The bridge never consented.

Ms. Rose took advantage of the bridge's inanimate nature and married it even though the bridge could not possibly express its consent to the marriage.

2. The bride never agreed to be faithful.

"He understands that I love other bridges -- and men -- ours is a love that embraces the vagaries of life, as materialised in… click here to read whole article and make comments



Family tree-lopping

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This weekend my daughter was catching up on her college homework.  Chapter Ten in her psychology textbook is titled “Sex and Gender.”  It covers topics such as gender differences, similarities, and stereotypes.  The chapter wends its way from transgender issues to sexual harassment to the glass ceiling in the workplace, the boundary beyond which women are not welcome.  The book defines sexism as “differential treatment of an individual on the basis of his or her sex.”

Nowadays more than half of all women in the United States work outside the home.  Although they are garnering high-profile positions in private industry, government and politics, there is one domain in which they are increasingly discriminated against and excluded:  families. 

Ironically, same sex marriage laws do this in the name of equality.  We open our hearts and minds and definition of marriage to include two men, and in doing so we close the door to a wife in… click here to read whole article and make comments


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