Love in a time of unreality

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I have constantly to recalibrate the sense of unreality enveloping the marriage issue because the distance from reality seems to grow day by day. One of my touchstones is Richard Cohen’s column in the Washington Post, whenever he addresses the subject, as he just has again in his May 20 column. The occasion was the release of an HBO film, “The Normal Heart,” a movie version of Larry Kramer’s play about the beginning of the HIV-AIDS epidemic and the apparent indifference of President Ronald Reagan and New York Mayor Ed Koch. The air of unreality in this column could not be thicker.

We begin, of course, with his experience of homophobia as a mere lad of 16, when some yahoo told him about how he beat up homosexuals with brass doorknobs. In benighted America of that time, Cohen tells us, “we knew of racism and anti-Semitism,”… click here to read whole article and make comments



Repudiating the calculated decision to deprive children of mothers

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David van Gend is a family doctor and head of the Australian Marriage Forum. He is always an eloquent, hard-hitting speaker, but in this 25-minute video he excels. Drawing on years of experience as a GP and keen political instincts, he presents a convincing case why governments should not legalise same-sex marriage. 

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The sad end of a gay marriage

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Marriage didn’t do this gay couple much good. Episcopal Bishop Gene Robinson and his partner of 25 years, Mark Andrew, had a civil union ceremony in 2008, which automatically became a “marriage” when New Hampshire legalised same-sex marriage in 2009.

On May 3 they announced their divorce.

In a comment written for The Daily Beast Robinson made the best of it, suggesting that it showed how alike homosexual and heterosexual marriages are:

“It is at least a small comfort to me, as a gay rights and marriage equality advocate, to know that like any marriage, gay and lesbian couples are subject to the same complications and hardships that afflict marriages between heterosexual couples.”

He gave no reason for the separation and said he still loved his erstwhile husband:

“My belief in marriage is undiminished by the reality of divorcing someone I… click here to read whole article and make comments



Much ado about sex; nothing to do with race

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marriage-raceA mixed race couple demonstrating for gay marriage hold up a sign saying, “Once our marriage was once illegal too.”

Is that a just comparison? Is opposition to same-sex marriage at all like opposition to inter-racial marriage? Does protecting the freedom to speak and act publicly on the basis of a religious belief that marriage is the union of a man and woman amount to the kind of laws that banned inter-racial marriage?

No, and no, says Ryan Anderson, a US expert on the marriage issue, in a background paper published by the Heritage Foundation. First, because the belief that marriage is a man-woman union is a reasonable belief, and second, because when they lead their lives and run their businesses in accordance with that belief, citizens deny no-one equality before the law. 

A reasonable belief...

Great thinkers throughout human history—and from every political community up until the year 2000—thought it… click here to read whole article and make comments



The legal maze of twins with three mothers

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A case concerning twin girls has come before the Court of Appeal in the UK that almost defies imagination in its complexity of relationships. If it weren’t a disturbing harbinger of things to come, it could almost be dismissed as a comedy of errors.

The story starts in the 1990s with two lesbians beginning an ‘intimate relationship’. At some point the relationship became platonic but the two women continued to share a house together until 2012. They disagree over the point at which their relationship became platonic.

While the relationship was still ‘intimate’, following unsuccessful attempts by the one of the women (the respondent) to conceive using her own eggs, the other (the appellant) agreed to donate her own eggs so that the respondent could become pregnant. She donated eggs which were fertilised with sperm from an… click here to read whole article and make comments



Nabisco: Sex discrimination is ‘wholesome’

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Scientists agree that breastfeeding is best for infants. Breastmilk is considered so important and nutritious, that hospitals now offer lactation consultants on site to birthing mothers to offer advice and support to moms.

Although infant formula makers work hard to make their product as nutritious as possible, how can powdered formula beat Mother Nature? (Spoiler alert: it can’t.)

"While the food aspects of milk to some extent are replicated in formula, the immuno factors and medicine of milk are not and the hormonal signals are not," says evolutionary biologist Katie Hinde at Harvard University. In fact, a new study revealed another startling difference between formula and breastmilk. Researchers have discovered that the bodies of nursing mothers automatically adjust their milk content depending on the sex of their baby. Hinde reported, "Mothers are producing different biological recipes for sons and daughters." The biologist co-authored a study that documents “baby boys often get… click here to read whole article and make comments



“I was jeered and spat at for defending marriage”

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Recently I appeared in the audience of BBC’s Question Time in my home town of Brighton after a friend asked me to take their place at short notice.

When Marilyn Barmer stood up and nervously asked whether the first gay marriages due to take place in the city in the next 24 hours were a necessary piece of legislation, the temperature in the auditorium plummeted, the warm glow of good-natured yet passionate debate replaced by a glacial hostility.

I have never before experienced such a palpable and visceral sense of contempt and dislike, despite having debated the issue a number of times inside a TV studio or on the radio with LGBT advocates.

While I’ve come in for a hefty amount of online abuse and insults over the years and at times been shocked by some of the sentiments expressed, I have at least been able to emotionally distance myself.

Words can have a powerful impact… click here to read whole article and make comments



Mozilla CEO booted out for backing marriage

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After only ten days in the job, Mozilla CEO Brendan Eich has been forced to step down for supporting gender integration in marriage. Eich co-founded Mozilla and invented JavaScript, the most commonly used computer programming language, but he’s in the news now for defending gender diversity.

Six years ago Eich donated US$1,000 to support Proposition 8, which states, “Only marriage between a man and a woman is valid or recognized in California.” Many gay rights activists jumped to the conclusion that everyone who endorsed Prop 8, including Eich, must be anti-gay.

In a statement provided by Mozilla, Eich explained why he walked:

"I have decided to resign as CEO effective today, and leave Mozilla. Our mission is bigger than any one of us, and under the present circumstances, I cannot be an effective leader. I will be taking time before I decide what to do next."

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It doesn’t come much clearer than this

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Here’s US marriage expert Ryan T. Anderson giving one of his sparkling clear presentations on the problem with same-sex marriage. If you want to see how you can talk comfortably to your friends and family about the importance of preserving marriage, watch this video.

It’s nearly an hour long by Ryan’s presentation takes the first 23 minutes – and it’s worth every minute of your time to listen to him.

His bio – just to refresh your memory:

Ryan Anderson is co-author, with Princeton's Robert P. George and Sherif Girgis, of the acclaimed book "What Is Marriage? Man and Woman: A Defense" (Encounter Books, December 2012). Justice Samuel Alito cited the book twice in his dissenting opinion in the Supreme Court case involving the Defense of Marriage Act.

In addition to a memorable 2013 debate about marriage on CNN's "Piers Morgan Live," Anderson has been the nation's most valuable traditional marriage advocate,… click here to read whole article and make comments



How can you spot an anti-gay bigot?

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Prominent writers recently wrestled with the following question: If a business declines to photograph a same sex wedding, does that automatically prove the owner is an “anti-gay bigot”?

Ross Douthat started the conversation with his op-ed at the New York Times which echoed the left’s mantra that the debate is over and same-sex marriage will soon win.  The only question remaining is, will gay rights activists honour freedom and “let the dissenters opt out,” or will they be pressured and sued into celebrating same sex marriages?

At Slate, Mark Joseph Stern promptly criticized Douthat for claiming the war was already won.  This is odd since this is precisely what the left’s talking point has been for months:  Same sex marriage is inevitable, so give up already.

Which Douthat did.

Stern also excoriated Douthat for portraying religious business owners as victims:

Douthat, like most state legislators… click here to read whole article and make comments


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