The pain of transgender regret

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At the age of 42, Walt Heyer was married and had two children. But he had felt for years that he was stuck in the wrong gender. So he fully transitioned and emerged as Laura Jensen. After living as a woman for eight years, he realised that he had made a terrible mistake. Now he has detransitioned back to his birth gender and provides encouragement to people who regret their gender change.

MercatorNet: Bruce – now Caitlin – Jenner seems perfectly happy with his gender change. Doesn’t his experience prove that a gender change is possible?

Walt Heyer: I was also "perfectly happy" with my gender change for about eight years. No one knows if Jenner will remain happy. It has been only a few months and he has had great financial benefit. When the cameras are no longer rolling and reality sets in, things could change very quickly… click here to read whole article and make comments



Let’s get this straight. A man cannot give birth.

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Mother & newborn sleeping. David J Laport / Flickr (CC BY 2.0)


Did you know that describing the state of pregnancy as being solely applicable to women is considered offensive?  No, dear reader, neither did I, until I read this earnestly written column, stating that transphobia is rampant in the midwifery world.

Up until 2014, the Midwives Alliance of North America (MANA) had, sensibly and reasonably enough, referred to their clients as women and mothers. Then at some point last year, presumably having imbibed the gender theory Kool-Aid at some diversity conference or other, they changed most of the language in their core competency documents to reflect the notion that some transgender, gender queer and intersex individuals may require midwifery care and do not identify as women. 

Well I hate to burst your navel-gazing bubbles, but frankly it doesn’t… click here to read whole article and make comments



Swept under the carpet

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Australian research from the 1990s has emerged as key evidence in the debate about same-sex parenting.

The constant refrain from supporters has been that there is no difference in outcomes for children in traditional marriages or same-sex couples. In 2010 Judge Vaughn Walker struck down a voter-approved constitutional referendum in California, partly because he found no sociological evidence of a difference. He put the conventional wisdom in a nutshell:

“Children raised by gay or lesbian parents are as likely as children raised by heterosexual parents to be healthy, successful and well-adjusted. The research supporting this conclusion is accepted beyond serious debate in the field of developmental psychology.”

And a brief sponsored by the American Psychological Association (APA) in 2005 asserted baldly that “none of the published research suggests conclusions different from” the “no difference” hypothesis.

This is simply not true. There was a study.… click here to read whole article and make comments



Australian companies risk backlash by endorsing same-sex marriage

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ABC News: Giulio Saggin   

The Catholic Archdiocese of Sydney has been pilloried for sending a letter to the heads of Australian companies that had taken out full-page advertisements in major newspapers in June supporting marriage equality.

Over 750 organisations, from major listed companies to some leading universities have added their logos to a highly successful publicity blitz. Pip Marlow, the managing director of Microsoft Australia, has become the poster girl for the campaign.

The CEO of Qantas, Alan Joyce, who is gay himself, says “now the entire aviation and banking sectors are on that ad. So if you’re not comfortable with that, you can’t fly and you can’t bank in Australia.”

The Church had rightly criticised the corporates for “overstepping their purpose”. The letter said, "For corporations to speak on such issues... is indeed overstepping their purpose and it is to be strongly… click here to read whole article and make comments



Highly publicised but tragically flawed

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Research in a leading journal claims that there has been a consensus on same-sex parenting for more than 20 years. Writing in this month’s issue of Social Science Research, jimi adams, of the University of Colorado Denver, and Ryan Light, of the University of Oregon, claim that there is “overwhelming evidence that scientists agree that there is not a negative impact to children of same-sex couples”. Furthermore they have detected what they say demonstrates an emerging consensus in the 90s and an  “overwhelming consensus” by 2000.

This has been widely reported as the “most comprehensive review” of studies on same-sex parenting. As the ThinkProgress site headlined it, “New Study Shuts Down Common Claim Against Same-Sex Parenting”.

The authors conclude that “The scientific community examining outcomes for children of same-sex parents has achieved consensus, and the consensus is that children of same-sex parents do not experience comparative disadvantages… click here to read whole article and make comments



Second thoughts on Kim Davis and her stand for marriage

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(This is intended, in part, as a response to those who have posted comments on my article of September 5, which are too numerous to answer individually.)

Since I wrote my piece on the jailing of Kim Davis, the clerk of Rowan County, Kentucky, for contempt of court a few days ago, more of the background to that event has emerged. This helps explain why she took the course that she did, and why it was reasonable.

The main fact I overlooked is that the marriage licences issued by the country clerk bear the clerk’s signature, so that, even if she left the task to her assistants, she would be personally implicated. Given her conscientious objection to same-sex marriage, the only course of action – apart from resigning -- that seemed open to her, and that did not discriminate between couples, was to stop issuing marriage licences altogether.

There was a solution to… click here to read whole article and make comments



Short, sharp and to the point

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I thought that a debate on same-sex marriage which allowed only two-minute speeches and two-minute rebuttals would be absurd. Well, I was wrong. After listening to the head of Australian Marriage Equality, Rodney Croome, debate the head of the Australian Marriage Forum, David van Gend, on radio earlier this week, I’d have to say that the arguments on both sides emerged very clearly.

Both Croome and Dr van Gend (an occasional MercatorNet contributor) are old hands, so they presented their best arguments succinctly and dispassionately. The presenter on ABC Radio Hobart also posed four questions to the pair. There were no tricks; they were predictable and sensible, the queries that always pop up in all discussions of same-sex marriage.

So who won? In my estimation, Rodney Croome’s argument seemed to be: “marriage is all about love and acceptance”. If that is his best shot, David van Gend’s insistence that children need a mother and a father won, hands down.

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Truth Overruled

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Image: Shutterstock

A row broke out in a Kentucky county courthouse yesterday when a clerk refused to issue marriage licences to two same-sex couples. When one of the parties demanded to know under whose authority Kim Davis was acting, she said, “Under God’s authority.”

“To issue a marriage license which conflicts with God’s definition of marriage, with my name affixed to the certificate, would violate my conscience,” she said. “It is not a light issue for me. It is a Heaven or Hell decision. For me it is a decision of obedience. I have no animosity toward anyone and harbor no ill will. To me this has never been a gay or lesbian issue. It is about marriage and God’s word.”

This episode is only the beginning of a bigger drama for Davis, who has legal proceedings against her, although she is by… click here to read whole article and make comments



Polygamists sue to have their ‘marriages’ recognised

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Kody Brown and his "sister wives" 

It didn’t take long. Within weeks of the US Supreme Court decision to legalise same-sex marriage, polygamous families have sued to have their own relationships recognised as marriages.

Kody Brown and his four wives are the stars of Sister Wives, the reality TV show about the day-to-day life of a polygamous family. The Browns used to live in Utah, where the government prosecutes openly polygamous spouses, so they have moved over the border. Nevada has a more relaxed approach to these issues.

The Browns are on a roll. In December 2013 they won a legal victory when a Federal district court overturned parts of a Utah statue banning polygamous marriages. But the Utah Attorney-General has appealed. He claims that women and children in polygamous relationships are often abused and that courts have consistently reprehended polygamy.

Jonathan Turley,… click here to read whole article and make comments



Fact-checking the fact-checkers

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Katy Faust, an American blogger who has become a spokeswoman for traditional marriage, appeared on the Australian program Q&A last week. Her views are particularly interesting as she is the daughter of a lesbian couple. Facing a largely hostile audience and partial questioning from the moderator, she still held her own when she was interrogated about the benefits of marriage between a man and a woman.

Afterwards The Conversation, a website funded by the government and Australian universities, looked into the conflicting claims made in the Q&A episode. The FactCheck editor, Sunanda Creagh, asked Simon Crouch, of the University of Melbourne, and Jennifer Power, of  La Trobe University, to fact-check her assertions.

The two experts concluded that Faust was wrong: “the overwhelming body of scientific research suggests that children develop well when growing up with same-sex attracted parents”.

Dr Paul Sullins, an American sociologist, decided to fact-check the fact-checkers. Here… click here to read whole article and make comments


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