The News Story - Divorce-alternate week arrangement damages children, experts say
While recent research has illumined the detrimental psychological effects that children of divorced families experience, further evidence shows that attempts to combat these effects by providing equal, split custody have not only failed to do so, but additionally have proved to increase the harm done to such children.
A recent article in International Business Times explains that researchers have found that “taking the children back and forth between their parents’ homes and or the mere act of having them sleepover with the parent they do not usually live with is damaging the children’s brain development.” These detrimental effects are thought to be worse for children under five, when such living arrangements often cause unhealthy attachment issues.
The News Story - Common Core upsets homeschooling parents
Recent repeal of the Common Core educational standards in Oklahoma was largely backed by support from homeschool advocates. An ABCNews article explains how the Common Core requires standardised testing in math and English, aimed to better prepare students for college and future careers. While homeschool and private school curriculum do not need to abide by the Common Core standards, such standards will nonetheless influence the feasibility of using different kinds and sources of instruction and learning.
Home-school advocates expressed concern, and in particular, some “home-schoolers fear that as textbook publishers incorporate the standards, it will lead to a smaller number of non-Common Core based-textbooks.” Additionally, many worry that “the ACT and the College Board, which owns the SAT, are moving toward aligning with the standards…[which] would leave home-schooling parents no choice other than to follow the standards if they want…
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It’s common knowledge that women are too often valued only for the way they look or the pleasure their bodies can give, which means that the recognition of other talents and abilities falls to the wayside. But we sometimes forget that men are often underestimated too - when it comes to parenting.
You see, popular culture tends to focus on that fact that men are hardwired for sex: that the only part of fatherhood they contribute to is the baby-making, and that they meet the prospect of paternity with wide-eyed gulping, sweaty-hand wringing and nervous stammering. Well don’t worry boys, because research shows that you are also hardwired for fatherhood, as reported by The Blog of The Institute for Family Studies.
Yesterday in separate appearances at the Auckland District Court in New Zealand two boys were charged in relation to the killing of a suburban dairy owner, Arun Kumar, two weeks ago. The age of the boys has shocked authorities and the public: they are 13 and 12, charged respectively with murder and manslaughter plus assault.
This is no isolated event. The breakdown of family life combined with popular media influences is turning children into predators and criminals, with uncontrolled appetites for what they perceive as goods, having nothing better to live for than consumption.
The long-term solution is the preparation for adults for parenthood and support for their role. But short-term there is an urgent need for community initiatives that can take these kids off the street and provide them with constructive activities and character formation they are never going to get at home.
The News Story - Florida man demands right to wed computer
A recent article in The Telegraph reports that a former lawyer, Chris Sevier, recently sought a marriage license to marry his Mac-book computer. In trying to argue his case, Sevier explained that he had become addicted to pornography via his computer, and so, “over time, [he] began preferring sex with [his] computer over sex with real women.”
The Telegraph reports Sevier as trying to make a case against the legalization of gay “marriage.” Sevier stated in court: “If there is a risk that is posed to traditional marriage and children, both man-man couples and man-machine couples pose it equally.” And he went on to say that “[in] considering the equal protection clause, there are no fewer policy reasons for preventing man-machine couples from marrying than there are for same-sex couples.”
It’s funny - with most things these days, we want it immediately. That new movie that’s out, Facebook notifications, those clothes we bought online. The only thing we seem happy to wait for is marriage, as made clear by a recent article titled “5 Good Reasons Why You Should Wait Until You’re 30 to Get Married” by a certain Paul Hudson at Elite Daily.
Well I don’t think we should wait that long. Sure, not everyone will meet their future spouse until that age or later, and that’s fine. But if you’ve found a great person and the only reason you’re not hitched is because you’re still in your twenties, that’s a problem.
So Mr. Hudson came up with five reasons not to get married until 30 (listed below). Let me refute those for you:
The News Story - Stay-at-home mums on the rise as economy settles
The recent stabilization of our economy has resulted in an increase in stay-at-home mums, a recent article from The Washington Times reports. “According to a recent Pew Research Center report,” the article states, “a greater share of mothers is not working outside the home than at any time in the past 20 years.” Additionally, what is particularly interesting is that “[t]he largest share [of stay-at-home mothers] consists of ‘traditional’ married stay-at-home mothers with working husbands…They made up roughly two-thirds of the nation’s 10.4 million stay-at-home mothers in 2012.” This means that we can safely say that most mothers choose to stay at home not due to economic necessity, but because they genuinely desire to care for their children and home over pursuing paid employment.
I am not a fan of that well-oiled pro-abortion argument, which goes something like, “Well, what about if the woman was raped?” Rape is a terrible crime and it would be natural for the woman to be initially distraught at a resulting pregnancy - but ending the baby's life is not the solution.
It's true, I don’t think that abortion is okay under any circumstance, but that's because of what it does to the mother, not just the baby. She wounds herself again by acting against her motherhood - something that in itself is good and positive, just like the new life that has been conceived.
Moving home with a big family can be quite a trial. We have done it four times in the last fifteen years. And each time the same question arises: do we need to take all those books?
In a world of Kindles and other electronic readers it does seem a little daft to pack hundreds of crumbling paperbacks into boxes that will take weeks to empty at the other end. And then where do they go? Books take up a lot of room in a world where each square metre of floor space costs of lot of money.
So why keep them? My husband says he and his books will not be parted. They are an aide memoire, reminding him of where he was and what he was doing when he read them. My suggestion that it might be simpler to just buy a diary falls on deaf ears.
Given that contemporary society seems to be ridding itself of “traditional,” breadwinner / homemaker, marriages, we might think that cohabitation, childless marriages, and career-centred bachelor lives have assumed that place. However, a recent article in The Atlantic indicates that “child-focused” marriages have replaced more traditional marriages. Despite their egalitarian nature – as seen by the shared tasks of domestic work and paid employment – the fact that modern marriages seem to be centred on children may be a hopeful sign for continuation of the natural family.
This article claims that, while marriage used to be a contract regarding gender-division of labour, today’s marital contract is seen as “a commitment device that supports high-levels of parental investment in children.” Because of their focus on children, parents in these marriages tend to have a more conservative view of marriage…
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Family Edge looks at news and trends affecting the family in the light of human dignity. Our focus is the inspiring, creative, humorous, annoying, ridiculous, and dangerous ideas in the evening news. Send tips and brainwaves to the editor, Tamara Rajakariar, at tamara.rajakariar@ mercatornet.com