Seven things maketh a happy marriage

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If you read my posts often, you’re probably sick of my relationship and marriage advice (especially considering that I’m only about to get married, while there are plenty of articles from couples who have been happily married for decades and decades). But guys, I just found some really good tips! From a recent Time article written by Tara Parker-Pope, author of the book For Better, they’re not the stuff we always hear - but from my own experience, I know these to be helpful. Allow me to fill you in:

Celebrate good news

It’s no secret that positives are a good thing (pardon the pun). So it makes sense that couples who celebrate the good things in their life also show higher levels of relationship satisfaction. Sometimes we assume that our partner knows we’re happy for them, proud of what they’ve achieved or thrilled to… click here to read whole article and make comments



Women and their feelings

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Often when I get upset, I feel the need to apologise, even when I had a legitimate reason. I am hard on myself after moments when I think that I’ve been too sensitive. I prefer to come across as rational rather than emotional. Ladies, can you relate?

But guess what? I’ve just read a pretty great article from the New York Times called “Medicating Women’s Feelings”, and now (drum roll, please), I think that feelings are a good thing.

Let’s clear up a few things up though. First: I never actually thought feelings were bad – just perhaps that logic was superior. I still think that logic should have the last word, but the fact that we have both faculties means they both play an important role, neither of which should completely dominate. Second: this is not a feminist rant, about how men have made us feel bad about our emotions… click here to read whole article and make comments



Wedlock as crime-stopper

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The News Story - Florida legislator wants to repeal cohabitation law

In Florida, it is still technically illegal for an unmarried man and woman to live together, but that might be about to change.
Senator Eleanor Sobel recently filed a bill to repeal the outdated law, which CBS reports “has been on the books for decades,” in spite of a 2011 attempt to change it. Ms. Sobel’s bill “would also remove a provision that allows a judge to prevent a parent from having contact with their child if they are convicted of breaking the cohabitation law.”
As many view cohabitation as the new marriage, this story made few headlines. But new research indicates that many states and municipalities have more of a reason for interest than they might realize in this seemingly innocuous behavior of their constituents.

The New Research - Wedlock as crime stopper, cohabitation as… click here to read whole article and make comments



Russell Brand takes on 50 Shades of Grey

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(Warning: There are a few clips from 50 Shades shown in the video that could be a trigger for some. Watch with caution.)


Russell Brand: English comedian, actor, and what do you know – anti-porn advocate. That’ll teach you not to judge a book by its cover.

But seriously – he might not have been the first person I expected to come out about the harmful effects of movies like  50 Shades of Grey, but I’m glad he did. In this short video he calls it soft-core pornography, and outlines the dangers as well as his personal realisations about the dangers of porn. Have a watch or check out this summary of his main points:

Films like 50 Shades of Grey is the “mainstreaming and commodification of soft-core porn”

* “Sex is something we’re all interested in because of biological programming, but our attitudes towards sex have become warped and perverted, and… click here to read whole article and make comments



Happier kids in eight steps

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So we hear a lot about raising smart kids and raising successful kids. But what’s more important than that? Happy kids! Which is why I loved yesterday’s article from Time which listed 10 science-backed ways to teach your kids happiness. Here are my favourites, and my take on them:

Get happy yourself

Example is the best way to teach, right? Plus it’s no secret that a parent’s way of being has a massive impact on their kids. In keeping with this, I recently heard that one of the best ways to ensure that a child is secure is for them to see that their parents love each other – and I can personally vouch for this. In our household, my siblings and I knew that divorce was never an option, and even though we did see Mum and Dad have the occasional tiff, it was never anything more than that –… click here to read whole article and make comments



Contraception and cancer

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The News Story - Why you're still paying for birth control even though it's "free" now

Susie Poppick writes for TIME this week about her near-miss at having to fork over a $50 copay for her birth control.
“Strange,” she thought, since she was sure that “preventative” health services like contraception were supposed to be free under the Affordable Care Act. She promptly went home, got on the phone with her insurance provider, and was told that only generic medications were free. The problem is, her particular brand didn’t have a generic yet. She dug a little deeper, and she was quickly told that all she had to do was to tell her physician to call her pharmacy and assure them that she needed this brand.
Poppick cautions women against being taken in, and writes that “Many women—and their insurance representatives, doctors, and pharmacists—aren’t… click here to read whole article and make comments



Work-life balance: real stories

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In less than six months, I’ll be getting married. And being open to the possibilities, who knows how soon after that I could have children?

I’ve always wanted kids but in drawing closer to the reality, there are a lot of questions to consider. Would I want to keep a full-time job? Could I work from home? I’d want family to take priority, of course, and with that is it even possible to maintain another job?

Every woman and situation is different, of course. I’m confident that I’d like to be at home once children come along, but still writing as much as possible. Even so, it’s wonderful to read how other family-oriented women have created balance in their lives – creating a beautiful home still working hard outside of the home.

That’s why I loved the “Real Story” of Maria Elena Critto from the BeHome Blog by the Home Renaissance… click here to read whole article and make comments



Marriage protects from heart disease

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The News Story – Six ways you can lower your risk of heart disease

February—the month of love—is also American Heart Month, and stories on what makes for good cardiac health abound.
CNN reported this week on a new study out of the Journal of the American College of Cardiology on the “six simple things” that go a long way in promoting a healthier heart, particularly for women. What are these magical steps?
The list is a typical one: Stop smoking, lose weight, exercise, eat healthily, limit television, and drink a moderate amount of alcohol.
What didn’t make the list, of course, is marriage, even though study after study has shown that being married does more than perhaps any other single factor in keeping us healthy and happy.
The New Research - The healthy heart—and the broken one

Marriage protects men and women from fatal heart attacks. Indeed, even among individuals who do suffer… click here to read whole article and make comments



A real man vs Mr Grey

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50 Shades of Grey: don't watch it.

Dear E.L. James (author of Fifty Shades of Grey),

I have a bone to pick with you. Valentine’s Day is a day to celebrate love – not to degrade and thoroughly undermine it. But through your books, and now with the film’s release on February 14, that’s exactly what you are doing. You are conveying to women that certain characteristics in a man are attractive when they are really not. You are telling women that your book has something to do with love, whereas I can hardly think of anything that’s further away.

I have not polluted my mind with the books or movie, but I’ve educated myself enough about them to know that I should stay away. But I thought I’d help you out, just in case you have any… click here to read whole article and make comments



The romance of a lifetime

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Until 1993, for 16 years I taught international relations at Georgetown University. In the concluding lecture of the year I used to share with my students some personal reflections to help them as they embarked upon their careers. Many were especially grateful for my advice about how to have a successful marriage. In this regard, I have always advised people to heed only marriage advice from those who are happily married. I consider myself especially well qualified as I have been exceedingly happy with my wife Joan for over 30 years. Here is what I told my students. 

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Above all, you must deeply feel that this is truly the person for you. In addition to all the marriage criteria mentioned below, mutual physical attraction and overall compatibility are essential. 

Only marry a true friend. This is essential. I have seen… click here to read whole article and make comments


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