Weakening the rights of children
Scandinavian countries have high rates of parenting outside marriage.
Living together, or cohabitation, is socially acceptable. In countries
like Sweden and Denmark, marriage and cohabitation have become
practically indistinguishable, although defacto couples with children
actually dissolve their relationship at two to three times the rate of
married parents. In Denmark, around 45 per cent of births take place
In the United States, there is less cohabitation, and more marriage,
but the marriages have a higher failure rate. The end result is that in
both the US and Denmark, family breakdown is high and many children do
not live with both biological parents.
An interesting approach to this modern problem comes from Dr David
Blankenhorn, from the Institute of American Values. In a recent address
to the Danish Institute for Human Rights, he used the language of human
rights, as it applies to marriage and the family. Looked at from the
point of a child, the picture is not so good: as adults assert their
rights, children may suffer.
Dr Blankenhorn said that the global human rights revolution, which
largely stems from the 1948 Universal Declaration of Human Rights, is
radically transforming the way we think about ourselves as individuals,
as citizens, and even as family members. The results are mixed, he
said, with the human rights revolution producing problems as well as
successes. But overall, he sees it leading to more freedom and a more
universal respect for human dignity.
Rights and obligations
There is a tendency, even a temptation, said Blankenhorn “to treat each
specific right as if it stands alone, in splendid isolation and
reigning in absolute mastery, conveniently disconnected from other
rights that may conflict with it.”
He said that rights can be disconnected from an overriding system of
values that allows us to understand rights in relation to duties and
obligations. “The obvious danger in this take-your-pick,
cafeteria-style, essentially decontextualised approach to human rights
is that each right, in its isolated supremacy, tends to get expressed
in absolutist, totalising terms”. Americans, he said, are particularly
prone to this temptation.
From the viewpoint of the institution of marriage and the family,
Blankenhorn pointed to two basic human rights. “The first is the right
to marry and to found a family – a right that was formally articulated
in Europe as early as the 12th Century in Christian canon law, and a
right that is enunciated explicitly in both the Universal Declaration
of Human Rights and the Charter of Rights of the European Union.”
The second right is the right of the child, as far as possible, to know
and to be raised by his or her own two biological parents, except when
it is contrary to the best interests of the child. He said this is
clearly implied in the Universal Declaration of Human Rights when it
insists that the family is the natural and fundamental group unit of
society. It is explicitly spelled out in the UN Convention on the
Rights of the Child.
“The right to marry and to found a family” as the Universal Charter
puts it, is a compound right, according to Blankenhorn: “the
institution of marriage is intrinsically connected to the institution
of parenthood and to the values, norms, and social expectations
connected to bearing and raising offspring.”
But in the US, and in many Western countries, this basic human right is
being re-conceptualised and expanded in ways that will have
far-reaching implications for society. The essence of this, he said,
“is that all persons have the right to form the families that they
choose and to bear children in the way that they choose.”
Three distinct trends are behind this development, he said. The first
is the rapid scientific development of assisted reproductive
technologies, such as the sale or donation of sperm or eggs; surrogacy
and other developments on the horizon.
The second is in the area of family law, where there has been a steady
lessening, and in some cases nearly the full elimination, of the
distinctions between married and unmarried persons in the eyes of the
law. The third trend, also in the area of family law, is the
establishment of equal marriage rights for homosexual and lesbian
“To a significant degree, these three trends hang together. They
largely complement and reinforce one another. They are all defended by
proponents who depend almost entirely on the language of human rights.
The essential rights claim is that modern individuals have the right to
form families of their own choosing and bear children in the way that
they wish, without restriction or interference from society, and with
the full support of available medical and scientific technologies.”
Dr Blankenhorn cited a number of developments in different countries.
Two contradictory moves in Canada may be amongst the most amazing.
Under Canadian law, it is now the right of an adopted child to know the
identity of his or her biological parents. But in the case of
donor-conceived children, it is a federal crime to reveal to the child
the identity of his or her biological parents.
Furthermore, the federal government, in its policy of equal marriage
rights for homosexual and lesbian couples, proposes to remove the term
“natural parent” from all Canadian laws, and replace it with the term
This social change carries with it a number of important likely
consequences for families and society, said Blankenhorn. These include
an increase in personal freedom and autonomy, greater recognition of
the rights and dignity of homosexuals and lesbians, a weakening of
marriage as a pro-child social institution, and direct strides towards
the marketisation and commodification of human reproduction. Each of
these likely consequences, he said, deserves serious consideration.
One consequence is a fundamental redefinition of what it means to be a
parent, and how we decide who are a child’s parents. “Specifically, I
am referring to the phenomenon of erasing the biological basis of
parenthood from law and replacing it with the idea of the state-defined
legal parent. This erasure not only represents a dramatic transfer of
power from private life to the state, but is also, I believe, contrary
to the best interests of children.”
The right of the child to know his or her own two natural parents is
just as much a right, said Blankenhorn, as the right of the adult to
marry and found a family. “As a sociological matter, we know that, for
children, biological parents matter. The social science evidence on
this point is overwhelming.”
This results in a clear case of rights in conflict. Making one
right stronger almost necessarily means making the other weaker. Dr.
Blankenhorn said there should be some development of the rights of
children with respect to marriage and the family, and put forward four
(1) Every child has the right, in so far as society can make it
possible, to know and be raised by its two natural biological parents,
except when it is contrary to the child’s best interests. The
implication of this right is that society should recognize and support
the institution of marriage, since marriage is our only social
institution that seeks fully to unite, in the persons of the spouses,
the biological, social, and legal dimensions of parenthood. The great
good and goal of marriage is to give to each child the gift of the two
persons who brought the child into the world. For this reason, marriage
is society’s most pro-child social institution and probably ultimately
society’s single most important protector and guarantor of the rights
(2) Every child has the right to a natural biological heritage, defined
as the union of the father’s sperm and the mother’s egg. Society should
typically refrain from actions that would efface or deny the child’s
natural biological heritage.
(3) Every child has the right to know his or her biological origins.
Individuals and society should typically refrain from creating genetic
orphans, or children who do not and can not know their natural origins.
(4) Children have the right to be heard. Today, the rights claims of
adults tend to come through loud and clear. Children’s voices are much
harder to hear.
To illustrate this last point, Dr. Blankenhorn read out a poignant
letter from an Australian, Narelle Grech. She describes herself as “a
22-year-old donor-conceived adult”. In her letter she goes on to say
“we are bargaining and trading human beings here as though they are
items on supermarket shelves! Creating donor-conceived people who all
of these consenting adults know will be unable to trace their
biological mothers is, to me, ignorant and cruel.”
Ms. Grech speaks of the possibility of half-siblings she will never
know, and writes “How dare someone take away someone else’s freedom to
know themselves? It is one of the most de-humanising experiences I have
had to face in my life. To look in the mirror on a day to day basis and
question so much is one of the worst feelings.”
Gerald Mercer is editor of the Australian magazine Social Action.
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